Sunday, June 29, 2008

Some neighbours do have them!

What would you do in a situation like this?

The time is 4am in the morning. Every normal human being is excepted to be indoors at this time (indoors here includes homes, club, church etc). I included the church and the club because so long as you are not roaming the streets at this unholy hour, that's fine. However, where an individual who has gone clubbing choose to go back to his apartment at such a time, it is expected that he/she would enter his house without disturbing the peace of the sleeping neighbours with NOISE!

That is not the case for "One Dresser" (all his clothes are similar, hence the name)

One Dresser occupies an apartment in the compound where I live. He is an old confirmed bachelor who has vowed to remain a bachelor. Since he moved into his apartment, One Dresser has ALWAYS returned to his apartment at odd times between the hours of 2am to 4am! On a daily basis. He usually returns with his cronies and you can only imagine the level of disturbance he metes out to us daily. Most times after he enters his apartment, the party continues and the sound system and/or TV set is usually set so high that even a deaf person can hear! Chei! How am I expected to sleep at this rate? We have talked to him as civily as possible, we have even threatened to report him to the Police ... for where... the guy no just send us o! The truth is that I don set plenty trap for am, but Hubby say make I just maintain! What can I do? On one fateful day he drove into the compound at exactly 2.30am and as expected the noise maker just kept ranting with his loud ugly voice. Just then there was a blackout (PHCN decided to hold the power at that time). You won't believe it but the guy man called Hubby to ask for petrol because he needed to run his generating set! Can you imagine?!! The guy just does not have sense. Anyway, common sense is not common after all! If he were a sensible person he should have known not to call any body at such an unholy time! Haba!

There are times he parks behind our car and of course getting him down to move his car is always a task! He actually takes his time! One day I'll deflate his tyres and damn the consequences jo! Patapata I go enter bus go work that day (that is not strange). One Saturday I was ready to go out so I sent my girl to call him down to move his car. After 5 minutes he still did not come down! I marched up and I BANGED very hard on his door! Opportunity to talk finally came, and you can trust me I let it out . . . "my friend come and move your car out jare. If you had parked well I would not have come to call you . . . is it my fault that you come in late always . . ."

O! I almost forgot. He carries them in different shapes, sizes, colours and beliefs! One early morning I overheard the following conversation:

Girl: Wey my money? I wan go.
I did not hear any reply from One Dresser.
Girl: Wetin you mean? I hope say na joke O. If you no pay me now now I go shout make every body hear o!
At this point in order to do my tatafo well I had to shift to another room! I missed some gist in the process. . .
One Dresser: When you decided to follow me I told you I will pay N2000. Why did you agree?
Girl: That na for 1 round. How many you do? Abeg pay me jo! Yeye man . . .

I wonder . . . is it that this guy no fit toast babe or he just no be am? He does not have a girlfriend, at least I have not seen him with any fixed babe! I think he needs serious prayers!

Now back to the koko. This guy is a societal nuisance! How do I handle him and his likes?

Friday, June 27, 2008


Someone who is claustrophobic has a phobia being in an enclosed place.

Have you ever been trapped (even for 1 minute) in an elevator or any othe air tight place?

That is one experience I do not like . . . because I am claustrophobic! I do not like being in an enclosed place more than necessary. Once I know that no air is getting into a place I start feeling very uncomfortable!

What is a Phobia?

Phobia = fear. That means a phobia is fear. However, a phobia is not just an ordinary fear. It is a morbid and irrational fear. A phobia is an extremely strong fear of a situation or thing. A phobic fear does not go away! Whao! If an individual has a phobia, such a person will be afraid of something (as it relares to the phobia) EVERY TIME he/she experiences it. Now that explains my behaviour when I am trapped in the elevator. . . when you are not sure of PHCN! Hey guys do you know that there is fear of PHCN? Yeah it is Electrophobia,the fear of electricity. Or maybe for the purpose of this region, it should be called "Nepaphobia." *chuckles*

Do you have a phobia? What is your phobia.

Below is a list of some common phobia, check if your phobia is listed.

1. Algophobia is the fear of pain
2. Demophobia is the fear of crowds
3. Altophobia is the fear of heights
4. Ambulophobia/Bathmophobia - Fear of walking
5. Agrizoophobia - Fear of wild animals
6. Agyrophobia is the fear of crossing streets
7. Atychiphobia is the fear of failure
8. Aurophobia is the fear of gold
9. Urophobia is the fear of urine
10.Arachnephobia is the fear of spiders
11.Tocophobia is the fear of pregnancy or childbirth
12.Sitophobia is the fear of food
13.Phagophobia is the fear of swallowing or fear of eating
14.Pogonophobia is the fear of beards
15.Phobophobia is the fear of phobias
16.Orthophobia is the fear of property
17.Osmophobia is the fear of smells
18.Melophobia is the fear of music
19.Gerascophobia is the fear of growing old
20.Chrometophobia is the fear of money
21.Gynophobia is the fear of women
22.Basophobia is the inability to stand. The fear of falling
23.Cathisophobia is the fear of sitting
25. Caligynephobia is the fear of beautiful women
26. Chorophobia is the fear of dancing
27. Ombrophobia is the fear of rain or of being rained on
28. Chinophobia is the fear of snow
29. Hypnophobia is the fear of sleep
30. Homichlophobia is the fear of fog

Which one is yours? Is it PHOBIAPHOBIA (Fear of fears)? Or maybe it is 25. Most people have phobia 19.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Much Ado about June 12!

The month was June. The date was 12. The year was 1993. Nigerians came out in the millions to cast their votes for their candidates. Every body was happy and were waiting eagerly for the results to be annouced. Alas! The election was ANNULLED! Just like that. The results of the poll were not made public. No reasons were given. The election was just annuled.

The aftermath of that annulment was terrible. There were riots all over the Country. Of course many lives were lost in the process.

Fifteen years after the annulment of the Presidential election, which was described as the freest and fairest election in the history of Nigeria Democracy, Nigerians are now hearing all sorts of declarations/testimonies/confessions with respect to June 12 1993.

First, the then National Electoral Commission (NEC) Chairman, Prof. Humphrey Nwosu recently launched a book titled "Laying the Foundation for Nigeria's Democracy: My Account of June 12, 1993." In his book Prof. Nwosu revealed that the late Chief M.K.O. Abiola actually won the Presidential elections in 1993. (As if Nigerians did not know!). The votes casted, according to Nwosu, was 8,323,3005 for Chief Moshood Abiola while the closest rival, Alhaji Ottman Bashir Tofa polled 6,073,612 votes.

Much as the results have now been made public the question is WHY DID WE HAVE TO WAIT 15 YEARS to get the results "published."

Nigerians expected the book to reveal the person or persons responsible for the annulment, but Nwosu refused to mention any names. Smart guy! Rather, the former NEC Chairman was singing praises in favour of the then Head of State, General Ibrahim Badamosi Babangida. Now that was a surprise. Nwosu practically absolved IBB of any blame! Hmmmmmm!

Anyway, in a recent development, IBB has said he was responsible for the annulment of the June 12, 1993 Presidential Elections. He said he annuled the elections! Gbam!

...River Trinity, Apapa-Oshodi Express Way, Lagos, Nigeria

For people who do not know, there is a river popularly known as river trinity along the Apapa-Oshodi Express way in Lagos State. The river is so called because it is located near the popular trinity bus stop along that road.

Whenever it rains...the rain water on the road makes it almost impossible for any body to drive through. Yes! The water level is at least above the knee level. Very deep indeed.

Yesterday was no exception as the rain poured all day long! Naturally and as expected whenever it rains, after the close of work the whole Lagos metropolis was road locked! The traffic jam was so much that many people got to their various homes as late as 11pm.

Back to the subject matter. The river trinity was the major cause of the traffic jam along the Apapa_Oshodi Expressway yesterday (and most days). Motorists have to wade gently through the water. Now you have to be very careful as there are lots of pot holes on the road. Mehn! It was not a funny O!

This is a clarion call! Lagos State Government please do something about the deplorable state of the roads ASAP so that EKO O NI BAAJE!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

It was a hoax!

Confession time! Yes. The man behind the photos of the "undiscovered" Amazon Tribe that were beamed around the world (including this blog) has admitted it was a hoax. He said the existence of the Amazon Indians' was already known, but he hoped the publicity would lift the threat of logging!

José Carlos Meirelles, an indigenous tribes expert, said the existence of the tribe was noted as far back as 1910, and they had been photographed to prove that "uncontacted" tribes still existed in an area endangered by logging.

They are the amazing pictures that were beamed around the globe: a handful of warriors from an 'undiscovered' in the rainforest on the Brazilian-Peruvian border brandishing bows and arrows at the aircraft that photographed them.

Or so the story was told and sold. But it has now emerged that, far from being unknown, the tribe's existence has been noted since 1910 and the mission to photograph them was undertaken in order to prove that 'uncontacted' tribes still existed in an area endangered by the menace of the logging industry.

The disclosures have been made by the man behind the pictures, José Carlos Meirelles, 61, one of the handful of sertanistas – experts on indigenous tribes – working for the Brazilian Indian Protection Agency, Funai, which is dedicated to searching out remote tribes and protecting them.

In his first interviews since the disclosure of the tribe's existence, Meirelles described how he found the group, detailed how they lived and how he planned the publicity to protect them and other tribes in similar danger of losing the habitat in which they have flourished for hundreds of years.

Meirelles admitted that the tribe was first known about almost a century ago and that the apparently chance encounter that produced the now famous images was no accident. 'When we think we might have found an isolated tribe,' he told al-Jazeera, 'a sertanista like me walks in the forest for two or three years to gather evidence and we mark it in our [global positioning system]. We then map the territory the Indians occupy and we draw that protected territory without making contact with them. And finally we set up a small outpost where we can monitor their protection.'

But in this case Meirelles appears, controversially, to have gone out to seek and find the uncontacted tribe in an area where it was known to be living.

According to his account, the Brazilian state of Acre offered him the use of an aircraft for three days. 'I had years of GPS co-ordinates,' he said. Meirelles had another clue to the tribe's precise location. 'A friend of mine sent me some Google Earth co-ordinates and maps that showed a strange clearing in the middle of the forest and asked me what that was,' he said. 'I saw the co-ordinates and realised that it was close to the area I had been exploring with my son – so I needed to fly
over it.'

For two days, Meirelles says, he flew a 150km-radius route over the border region with Peru and saw huts that belonged to isolated tribes. But he did not see people. 'When the women hear the plane above, they run into the forest, thinking it's a big bird,' he said. 'This is such a remote area, planes don't fly over it.'

What he was looking for was not only proof of life, but firm evidence that the tribes in this area were flourishing – proof in his view that the policy of no contact and protection was working. On the last day, with only a couple hours of flight time remaining, Meirelles spotted a large community.

'When I saw them painted red, I was satisfied, I was happy,' he said. 'Because painted red means they are ready for war, which to me says they are happy and healthy defending their territory.'Survival International, the organisation that released the pictures along with Funai, conceded yesterday that Funai had known about this nomadic tribe for around two decades. It defended the disturbance of the tribe saying that, since the images had been released, it had forced neighbouring Peru to re-examine its logging policy in the border area where the tribe lives, as a result of the international media attention. Activist and former Funai president Sydney Possuelo agreed that – amid threats to their environment and doubt over the existence of such tribes – it was necessary to publish them.

But the revelation that the existence of the tribe was already established will provoke awkward questions over why a decision was made to try to photograph them – a form of contact in itself – in order to make a political point.

Meirelles, one of only five or so genuine sertanistas, has no regrets, arguing that the pictures and video released to the world were powerful and indisputable evidence to those who say isolated tribes no longer exist. 'Alan García [the President of Peru] declared recently that the isolated Indians were a creation in the imagination of environmentalists and anthropologists – now we have the pictures.'

But he is determined to keep the tribe's location secret – even under torture, he says. 'They can decide when they want contact, not me or anyone else.'

Source: Guardian News

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Idols (East and South Africa)

The top 7 contestants took the stage tonight!

All through the auditions and down to the top ten the selection had been great! Now, the top 10 are "singing" for our votes! Yes! it is not about the comments of the judges, it is not about how much cheers or boos the contestants get from the audience . . . it is all about the votes of thousands and millions of Africans! Yes, that is ALL that matters.

I am not going to campaign for any contestant but I sincerely pray that the best contenstant (in terms of vocals, presentation and of course stage confident) would be the next Idol. I mean Africa should vote for true talent! Lets vote for a true IDOL!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

. . . a doctor is also a patient!

Did you know that medical practitioners alsoo need to be attended to? Well they do. Most of us forget that these medical practitioners (Nurses, Surgeons, Dentists or even the general medical practitioner) are first and foremost humans with theirindividual human needs and feelings!

Doctors cry. . . Doctors feel pain . . . Doctors worry . . . and the list goes on. . .

This is a must read from Readers Digest!

• I was told in school to put a patient in a gown when he isn't listening or cooperating. It casts him in a position of subservience. --Chiropractor, Atlanta

• One of the things that bug me is people who leave their cell phones on. I'm running on a very tight schedule, and I want to spend as much time with patients as I possibly can. Use that time to get the information and the process you need. Please don't answer the cell. --James Dillard, MD, pain specialist, New York City

• I wish patients would take more responsibility for their own health and stop relying on me to bail them out of their own problems. --ER physician, Colorado Springs, Colorado

• So let me get this straight: You want a referral to three specialists, an MRI, the medication you saw on TV, and an extra hour for this visit. Gotcha. Do you want fries with that? --Douglas Farrago, MD

• I used to have my secretary page me after I had spent five minutes in the room with a difficult or overly chatty patient. Then I'd run out, saying, "Oh, I have an emergency." --Oncologist, Santa Cruz, California

• Many patients assume that female physicians are nurses or therapists. I can't tell you how often I've introduced myself as Dr. M. and then been called a nurse, therapist, or aide and asked to fetch coffee or perform other similar tasks. I have great respect for our nurses and other ancillary personnel and the work they do, but this doesn't seem to happen to my male colleagues. --Physical medicine and rehabilitation doctor, Royal Oak, Michigan

• The most unsettling thing for a physician is when the patient doesn't trust you or believe you. --Obstetrician-gynecologist, New York City

• It really bugs me when people come to the ER for fairly trivial things that could be dealt with at home. --ER physician, Colorado Springs, Colorado

• Your doctor generally knows more than a website. I have patients with whom I spend enormous amounts of time, explaining things and coming up with a treatment strategy. Then I get e-mails a few days later, saying they were looking at this website that says something completely different and wacky, and they want to do that. To which I want to say (but I don't), "So why don't you get the website to take over your care?" --James Dillard, MD

• I know that Reader's Digest recommends bringing in a complete list of all your symptoms, but every time you do, it only reinforces my desire to quit this profession. --Douglas Farrago, MD
For a full list of all 41 Medical Secrets buy a copy of Readers Digest and/or visit

Tuesday, June 17, 2008


Why would anyone in his/her right senses impersonate another human being!? That is very heinous! Why?

I just read a post on John Chow's website titled Scam alert - Watch out for a fake John Chow. This fake John Chow is targeting people on the Digital Point forum and telling them that he is gathering people for a new project with Shoemoney!

Below is an excerpt from the post on the real John Chow's website. Read on and I pray no body falls a victim of this scammer!
I guess I should expect these kind of things. Someone is going around MSN pretending to be me. He is using the email and adding people for the purpose of scamming them. Now, why MSN doesn’t confirm an email before it lets someone create an account is beyond me.

The fake John Chow is targeting people on the Digital Point forum and telling them that he is gathering people for a new project with Shoemoney. I don’t know what this project is but whatever it is, Shoe and I have nothing to do with it.

If this fake John Chow message you on MSN, tell him to take a hike. Thanks to One Tweak and Lushable for bringing this to my attention. It’s good to see you guys can tell who the real John Chow is.

For those of you who do not know the real John Chow, permit me to introduce to you the most talked about, the most admired internet guru ... John Chow. John Chow is one of my mentors on the internet. Feel free to check him out at You'll be glad you did!

Monday, June 16, 2008


The essense of going to school is to acquire knoweledge. The good thing is after I have since left the 4 walls of school, I still learn everyday. My "teachers" now are my kids!

You know how it is when you are always wrong and their teachers are always right! Well the learning process continues! The sort of weekly and terminal projects these children do these days is really challenging. The most recent project was to cut and paste five pictures of tools used in the medical field/profession.
In my search for these "tools" I came across this word "SPHYGMOMANOMETER"
Did you know that is the medical name for the instrument used for measuring blood pressure?! Well now you do. Before now, as a lay man in the medical field, I called that instrument blood pressure monitor. Well now I know better.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Lucky Friday 13

Do you believe that whenever the 13th day of any months falls on a Friday its bad luck? Well I don't.

This myth has been on for so long, but thankfully, with a recent report published on the internet, Friday 13 is no longer considered as an unlucky day after all!

Unlucky for some? Dutch statisticians have established that Friday 13th, a date regarded in many countries as inauspicious, is actually safer than an average Friday.

A study published on Thursday by the Dutch Centre for Insurance Statistics (CVS) showed that fewer accidents and reports of fire and theft occur when the 13th of the month falls on a Friday than on other Fridays.

"I find it hard to believe that it is because people are preventatively more careful or just stay home, but statistically speaking, driving is a little bit safer on Friday 13th," CVS statistician Alex Hoen told the Verzekerd insurance magazine.

In the last two years, Dutch insurers received reports of an average 7,800 traffic accidents each Friday, the CVS study said. But the average figure when the 13th fell on a Friday was just 7,500.

There were also fewer incidents of fire and theft, although the average value of losses on Fridays 13th was slightly higher.

(Reporting by Tineke van der Struik; Editing by Catherine Evans)

Source: Yahoo News

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Foot Bridges

Why is it that pedestrians do not use the pedestrian bridges (aka foot bridge)?

Why do people choose to expose themselves to the danger of crossing the major roads in Lagos when there are bridges built just for that.? I have combed every where for possible answers but none is good enough...

No be every car we de road get functional breaks O! No be every driver wey de drive be correct driver O! Imagine if you have to cross and one of these lunatic drivers wey never sabi the thing well just brusssssssh you! Wetin go happen? Nothing. Particularly where there is a footbridge in place.

The other day as I was approaching cele bus stop, (there is a foot bridge) every body chose to run across to the other side of the road, not minding that some drivers no get good brakes! If not by the grace of God, I don jam one finish O! Well no bi me go confirm person dead. Tufiapka! You know what, they were actually cursing! "Wicked woman!" "You no fit stop?" "See hin face!" etc.

Na wa O! I no blame dem sha!

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

What's Height got to do with LOVE?

She Says vs. He Says: What's Height Got to Do With Love?
Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Jun 10, 2008

Agreeing on the "right height" for a healthy relationship has been a hot topic since before Darwin tried to explain why both genders finally stood up. In this debate, authors Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey attempt to demystify what each gender thinks about height and its impact on dating. This discussion is particularly important for single people who want to improve their chances of finding a date online by adjusting their personal height stats.

SHE SAYS: When it comes to initial attraction, height matters. A woman wants to look up to a man, both literally and figuratively. Now I know a lot of women may disagree with me here and say it's all about equality, but when it comes to height, many women aren't drawn to a level playing field. I don't know if it's feeling a taller man can better protect us or simply look good on holiday postcards, but short guys definitely have to work harder to stand out in a crowd.

But here is the thing, “if you take the time to get beyond the superficial stuff and see someone for who they are, then height doesn't matter at all” if you take the time to get beyond the superficial stuff and see someone for who they are, then height doesn't matter at all. When it comes to love, physical attraction may spark a relationship but it rarely sustains one. And, hey, as a woman, I know that there's a lot a guy has to offer when he is not standing. The things that matter when it comes to love are whether or not your values, life goals, priorities, and communication skills align -- not whether you can see over him when you wear your favorite stiletto

HE SAYS: As a guy who is vertically mediocre, I don't think height is the deciding factor when it comes to falling in love -- unless you want your future children to play college basketball on scholarship. However, when a short guy shows up at a restaurant on a date with a much taller woman you know that some of the other guys in the place are thinking, "What does he do?" That particular situation has never happened to me, but it sure sounds cool. What I do know is that love doesn't come with a minimum height requirement like a ride at Six Flags. Sometimes the one you end up falling head over 3-inch heels for doesn't necessarily fit your "type," but then maybe she is exactly your type after all. I mean you may not end up seeing eye-to-eye on your wedding day, but that shouldn't matter because you can always PhotoShop the pictures. I did.

Hmmm! So what would happen to the short people?

Monday, June 9, 2008

Wrong Spelling?

One thing I like to do is take photographs! I might be an amateur, but I sure do take good shots. With my Nokia Nseries, I get quality snap shots anythime, anywhere!

While in the traffic recently, I spotted this "taix cap" beside me ... and click I took a shot!

When next you need a cab (cap) just shout out loud for a taxi (ooops! I mean taix!).

Welcome to the World!

Congratulations Mavi on the birth of your beautiful baby girl!

Whao! the baby is so so beautiful! Welcome sweet baby to this wonderful world. Although I have 2 kids already, after I carried Mavi's baby I felt like having another! Yeah. But that is just a feeling! (LOL)

That same day (06/06/08) my son back in the days (school son) joined the Daddy's club as his wife also delivered a beautiful baby boy! Yes! I now have a grandson! (LOL).

Thank God for safe deliveries. The two Mothers and their babies are in good health! Praise God!

Friday, June 6, 2008

Prison or work . . .

Hey guys! I just saw this in my email. I found the comparism very funny, so I decided to share it here. Enjoy!



You spend the majority of your time in an 8X10 cell.

You spend most of your time in a 6X8 cubicle.

You get three meals a day (free).

You only get a break for one meal and you have to pay for it yourself.

You get time off for good behaviour.

You get rewarded for good behaviour with more WORK!

A guard locks and unlocks the door for you.

You open all doors yourself.

You can watch TV and play games all day.

You don't get such luxury. You get fired for watching TV and playing games.

You get your own toilet

You have to share

Your friends and family are allowed to visit.

You are not permitted to speak to your friends and family.

All expenses are paid by taxpayers with no work at all

You get to pay all the expenses to go to work and then they deduct taxes from your salary to pay for the prisoners.

In your comparism, I would like for you to be very sincere and state the preferred!

Thursday, June 5, 2008

GSM Again

Yesterday I tried to make a call to hubby who is out of jurisdiction. As soon as I placed the call, the next thing I heard with a very aggresive voice was "you have inssufficent credit to make this call. Please load an all in one card. Thank You". I said to myself "that is impossible. I have enough credit to make this call and even more". I checked my balance and saw I had N1115.06 credit!

So I tried again. The same voice with the same wrong message. So I loaded another card.

I tried again and the same message! At this point, I just concluded that the whole system was faulty. But why am I been told I have no credit, when infact I have credit in my phone?

Please to all you GSM providers, improve on the quality of your service.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Obama gets the ticket

Congratulations our own Barack Obama! Congratulations for making history as the first Black African American to be nominated as a Presidential Candidate in the USA! Congratulations!

(CNN) --
U.S. Democratic presidential hopeful Barack Obama has made history by becoming the first African-American to head the ticket of a major U.S. political party.

Sen. Barack Obama on Tuesday became the first African American to head the ticket of a major political party.

In what he called a "defining moment for our nation," Obama Tuesday passed the necessary 2,118 threshold of delegates and superdelegates who decide on the party's nomination for the White House race, CNN projected.

His victory came after he beat rival Hillary Clinton -- herself seeking to become the first female nominee -- in the final two primary contests that have brought nearly 35 million of their supporters to the polls."Tonight we mark the end of one historic journey with the beginning of another -- a journey that will bring a new and better day to America," Obama told a frenzied rally crowd at St. Paul, Minnesota.

"Tonight, I can stand before you and say that I will be the Democratic nominee for president of the United States."

Obama and Clinton ended the round of Democratic primaries by splitting the final two states: Montana and South Dakota. Despite his loss in South Dakota, Obama nevertheless gained the necessary delegates an hour before the Montana polls closed.

Speaking in New York, Clinton congratulated Obama for his campaign, but she did not concede the race nor discuss the possibility of running as vice president -- despite reports earlier in the day that she would quit and join the Obama ticket.


Why is it that when emails are forwarded there is always a subtle threat at the end of the mail? Some of such subtle threats are - " froward this mail to at least 10 people and something good would happen to you"; "if you ignore this, something terrible would happen to you" blah blah blah.

You know what? I do not believe in all that and I personally do not fancy that idea at all. I mean, if I choose not to forward a mail why should it be anyone's business? Whay say something bad or terrible would happen to me if I do not forward a mail. I think most of these so called forwarded mails are sent out fear. Well I don't.

I suggest that if you receive any such mail in your inbox, and you like the message, please do some adjusting by deleting that threat or warning at the end of it. Nobody or any thing can break anyone bad luck!

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Are Men really afraid of Marriage?

A recent study/survey made public yesterday shows that most men are actually afraid of being married! Carl Weisman, a 49 years old bachelor, after his recent survey concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage - but they were afraid of a bad marriage!

Is that true guys? I never knew the guys are so chicken hearted! (Ha Ha HA!)

Believe me when I say this, marriage is a very pleasant thing for every one to experience! There is no need for any one to be scared. There would be no room for a bad marriage if you PRAY towards it. Remember that marriage is a life commitment, so before you enter pray to be led to your missing rib. That way you will not have a bad marriage! I promise.

Bottom line - before you leap make sure you look VERY well and of course PRAY! Pray and keep praying!

Below is the extract from the Reuters news file on Yahoo news. Enjoy!

Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage: study
- By Belinda Goldsmith Mon Jun 2, 1:26 AM ET

SYDNEY (Reuters Life!)
Bachelor Carl Weisman got fed up of being classified as a playboy, a loser or a commitment-phobe so he set out to find out exactly why he and a growing number of eligible men were steering clear of marriage.

Weisman, 49, conducted a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men to research a book aiming to give women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single -- and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties.

He concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage -- but they were afraid of a bad marriage.

"Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters in a telephone interview.

"This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces. People assume there is something wrong if you don't marry but these are men who have made a different choice and not given in to social pressures."

The release of his book "So Why Have You Never Been Married? - Ten Insights into Why He Hasn't Wed," comes amid a growing trend for more people to stay single, with less social or religious pressures on men -- and women -- to tie the knot.

Weisman said U.S. figures showed that in 1980 about 6 percent of men aged in their early 40s had never married but this number had now risen to 17 percent.

Weisman said his online survey found there are three groups of bachelors -- about 8 percent who never want to marry, 62 percent want to marry but of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 percent who are on the fence.

Four out of 10 bachelors did not want children compared to three out of 10 wanting to be a father. The rest were undecided.

But while 72 percent of respondents said they were not afraid of marriage, about half of them said the situation that scared them most was marrying the wrong person.

"It's so important to these men to get it right. My best advice to single women after bachelors is to be patient. If you're in a hurry to get married you'll be frustrated," he said.

Weisman also found that financial issues, both positive and negative, played a large part in men's fear of commitment.

"Those with little money said they would have nothing to offer a partner, with some suffering self-esteem issues and withdrawing from the dating pool," said Weisman, an engineer-turned-author with two books now published.

"While those who are financially sound were terrified what a bad divorce could do to them." Weisman said his research blew away any idea that single men were unhappy.

"A compelling issue was how many of them had found contentment in a never-married life," he said. "They had created lives full of careers, friends and ambitions. It was not like they walk around all day worried about not being married."

For him, researching the book made him also look at himself -- and he ended up living with a girlfriend for the first time.

"Now we're looking at getting married. As I researched the book I found I was looking at men 10 years older than me and it was like looking into the future. If I didn't change, nothing would," he said.

(Editing by Miral Fahmy)

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