Which is your wedding finger?

I have always wondered why married people wear the wedding rings/wedding bands on their fourth finger. Why can't I wear my wedding band on my thumb or on any other finger? Why is the wedding ring worn on the fourth finger? Why? Why?

Well this mail I received recently suggested an answer to my questions.


The thumb represents your Parents.

The second (Index) finger represents your Siblings.

The middle finger represents your-Self.

The fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner.

The Last (Little) finger represents your Children.

Now do this:

(1) Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back.

(2) Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip shown below:

(3) Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents) . . . they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

(4) Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings). . . they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

(5) Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children). . . they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

(6) Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT...

The reason is this - God Almighty, the author of marriage, said Husbands and Wives were made to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!

Isn't this a lovely theory?

I'do anything for you...

"I will do anything for you..." This phrase is almost like a broken record!

Most times, when a guy wants to go into a relationship with a babe, he'll promise her ALL sorts. I have heard of some bizarre promises guys make to babes and I have heard some stunts guys pull to prove their love. Also, there a so many songs, where the singer (usually a guy) promise to do some weird acts just to show his love for a babe! In fact the one on my mind now is the song by a guy who says he'll catch a grenade, throw his hand on a blade, jump in front of a train... for his babe. But the irony is that the guy knows that the babe would not do same for him! Great! 

I have always wondered about the practicability of some of these acts. Now, please don't get me wrong ... I am a romantic to an extent! LOL! So when a guy goes an extra mile to prove his love, I am always fascinated. But I do not know how to describe it when a guy decides to WALK 1,000 MILES to propose to his girlfriend! I read about a Chinese woman, Ling Hsueh, who told her boyfriend, Liu Peiwen that she would only marry him if he walked 1,000 miles for her! Mehn! See ultimatum na!

Liu Peiwen had since commenced the walk which is about 1,600 kilometers! Hopefully, the walk would end this weekend. That babe had better say YES a thousand times o! LOL!

Please read more of this love story here.

Can you do any extra-ordinary thing for love? Would you catch a grenade for love? Would you die for love?

Imagine this!

That Alhaji Sani Ahmed Yerima has a taken another child as his new wife is no longer news. However, what is new and news to me is the fact that this old man was quoted as saying he has not done any wrong! Hello! Talk about cradle snatching! Talk about child abuse!

It would be recalled that sometime in the year 1999, Sani Yerima, who was the Governor of Zamfara State declared that his State - Zamfara, was adopting the Sharia Legal system. That single act generated a lot of debates and it was greatly criticized.

Now, Yerima, a serving Senator, is in the news again. His latest wife is a child! She is just 13 years old for crying out loud!

I have had discussions with some moslems and one thing I have learnt from these discussions is that the Qur'an only permits marriage to more than one woman, on the condition that the man can support and treat them equally. Yap! The Qur'an does not make it mandatory to marry more than one wife! That is one part most moslems omit when relying on the provisions permitting them to marry more than one wife!

Yerima, who was born sometime in the year 1960, paid a whooping sum of $100,000 approximately (N15,000,000) as the bride price for this child and the wedding was allegedly conducted at the National Mosque in Abuja!

Nigerian women senators and various Women's Groups made this information known by writing a petition to the Senate. Following the petition, the Senate has ordered an investigation into this allegation - that one of its members married a 13-year-old Egyptian girl.

The groups also want the senate to "estabish the legality or otherwise of this action, considering the high personal status of Senator Yerima, his status in society as a lawmaker and leader and the negative effect of such acts on the image of Nigeria".

In an attempt to raise a defence, Yerima said in a BBC telephone interview that he has not violated any rule as far as Islam is concerned. "I don't care about the issue of age since I have not violated any rule as far as Islam is concerned," he said.

THE CHILD RIGHTS ACT
In 1989, world leaders saw that children needed a special convention just for them because people under 18 years old often need special care and protection that adults do not. The leaders also wanted to make sure that the world recognized that children have human rights too. To this end, there was a Convention for the Rights of the Child which was adopted by the UNITED NATIONS GENERAL ASSEMBLY.

By virtue of this Convention, every Member State is mandated to ensure that the principles of the Convention are implemented in their Countries. On this note, Nigeria passed this Convention into Law in July 2003. Under the Nigeria Child Rights Act, betrothal and marriage of children (as defined by the Act) is prohibited. The penalty/punishment is a fine of N500,000 {(£2,000) ($3,320)} or imprisonment for 5 years or both (ie fine and jail term).

Children in Love

Who says children do not know love?!

I just read the news about two little Germans aged 5 and six who planned to elope to Africa to get married!

The children, who say they are "very much in love", packed some of their belongings and headed for the airport. They were stopped by a by a policeman in Hanover.

Read more here.

Are Men really afraid of Marriage?

A recent study/survey made public yesterday shows that most men are actually afraid of being married! Carl Weisman, a 49 years old bachelor, after his recent survey concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage - but they were afraid of a bad marriage!

Is that true guys? I never knew the guys are so chicken hearted! (Ha Ha HA!)

Believe me when I say this, marriage is a very pleasant thing for every one to experience! There is no need for any one to be scared. There would be no room for a bad marriage if you PRAY towards it. Remember that marriage is a life commitment, so before you enter pray to be led to your missing rib. That way you will not have a bad marriage! I promise.

Bottom line - before you leap make sure you look VERY well and of course PRAY! Pray and keep praying!

Below is the extract from the Reuters news file on Yahoo news. Enjoy!

Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage: study
- By Belinda Goldsmith Mon Jun 2, 1:26 AM ET

SYDNEY (Reuters Life!)
Bachelor Carl Weisman got fed up of being classified as a playboy, a loser or a commitment-phobe so he set out to find out exactly why he and a growing number of eligible men were steering clear of marriage.

Weisman, 49, conducted a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men to research a book aiming to give women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single -- and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties.

He concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage -- but they were afraid of a bad marriage.

"Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters in a telephone interview.

"This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces. People assume there is something wrong if you don't marry but these are men who have made a different choice and not given in to social pressures."

The release of his book "So Why Have You Never Been Married? - Ten Insights into Why He Hasn't Wed," comes amid a growing trend for more people to stay single, with less social or religious pressures on men -- and women -- to tie the knot.

Weisman said U.S. figures showed that in 1980 about 6 percent of men aged in their early 40s had never married but this number had now risen to 17 percent.

AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES
Weisman said his online survey found there are three groups of bachelors -- about 8 percent who never want to marry, 62 percent want to marry but of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 percent who are on the fence.

Four out of 10 bachelors did not want children compared to three out of 10 wanting to be a father. The rest were undecided.

But while 72 percent of respondents said they were not afraid of marriage, about half of them said the situation that scared them most was marrying the wrong person.

"It's so important to these men to get it right. My best advice to single women after bachelors is to be patient. If you're in a hurry to get married you'll be frustrated," he said.

Weisman also found that financial issues, both positive and negative, played a large part in men's fear of commitment.

"Those with little money said they would have nothing to offer a partner, with some suffering self-esteem issues and withdrawing from the dating pool," said Weisman, an engineer-turned-author with two books now published.

"While those who are financially sound were terrified what a bad divorce could do to them." Weisman said his research blew away any idea that single men were unhappy.

"A compelling issue was how many of them had found contentment in a never-married life," he said. "They had created lives full of careers, friends and ambitions. It was not like they walk around all day worried about not being married."

For him, researching the book made him also look at himself -- and he ended up living with a girlfriend for the first time.

"Now we're looking at getting married. As I researched the book I found I was looking at men 10 years older than me and it was like looking into the future. If I didn't change, nothing would," he said.

(Editing by Miral Fahmy)